When does the lying stop? Should a parent try to detect all the lies? He is 21 and does not live with us. Do we just let it continue or spend all of our time trying to stop it and being disappointed yet again. What is real with him? Does he care about his family? It is exhausting! I don't get it! Wanting to find a peaceful place for my mind to go to...Want him to just be WELL! I don't know if I can be well if he isn't well.

Thanks so much to all of you for your thoughts and support. So sorry you know what I am going through. You gave this heart-broken mom a lift today. Thank you for sharing. Our experience sounds very close to many of your experiences.

I will strive to be strong today!

What Happened?

Wow! The past year has been filled with lies and unbelievable stories from our drug addicted son. How in the world did this happen? My husband and I have spent many hours and sleepless nights trying to figure out when everything went wrong. It hit us smack in the face this year. He tried to hide his problem, but it became so apparant to us....the behavior was so strange and so dishonest. We are so frightened for him. We are frightened for ourselves and the loss of who our son really is. He has hurt people close to him that care about him with his dishonesty.

We are trying to find a way to feel somewhat normal. We must find a way to carry on. His actions have created such turmoil in our lives. How to gain control of our lives again....how to love a drug addict....how to hold our heads up....how to not feel crazy because of his craziness....how to have hope.